Life after Breaking Up
People cease to be in intimaterelationships with each other for various different reasons. However,once they are single again, not all of them should immediately startsearching for someone else to fill in the empty space in their lives.Nevertheless, neither should they prepare for spending the rest oftheir life in solitude. There are certain things you need to takeinto consideration during these periods and the following lines willlist all these things making it easier for you to deal with this,sometimes quite difficult, problem.
When to Start Over?
First of all, you may have broken upfor many different reasons. Sometimes, these reasons are not strongenough to make the two people separated and these break ups oftenresult in eventual reconciliation. Yet, in these situations, if youhappen to find someone else to help you when you are lonely, you willonly risk to hurt this person when you go back to your previousrelationship. So, if there is a chance of you getting back to yourprevious partner, do not start over. Rather, wait for the situationto clear out a little bit and once both of you think things through,you will probably be back together. The same goes for divorce as wellas long and short term relationships.
There are cases when people do not knowwhether to start a new relationship after their previous partner haddied. Then, the best thing to do is to ask yourself whether you areready for something as serious as a relationship. Since you havealready had a good relationship, you will have no problems when youengage into a new one. Still, it has to be in the time you yourselfperceive as right.
Analyze yourself and your behavior.Namely, there are people who repeat the same mistakes over and over again,from one relationship they get into another one. People can beintolerant and lack the necessary contribution to the relationshipthey have. On the other hand, they can be overprotective, jealous andhave many other problems. Either way, try and change the things thatstand in the way of your happiness. If this requires professionalcounseling, do it.
Finally, do not step into a newrelationship if you have certain fears and uncertainties. Each newbond you make with people is a step into the unknown and you mightfear that you could lose yourself or lose the person you start tolove once again. While in such a doubtful process, wait beforestarting over. Eventually, things will get much clearer and you willhave all the self-confidence you need in order to give whatever ittakes while cherishing and nourishing your new relationship.