Life after Breaking Up
People cease to be in intimate relationships with each other for various different reasons. However, once they are single again, not all of them should immediately start searching for someone else to fill in the empty space in their lives. Nevertheless, neither should they prepare for spending the rest of their life in solitude. There are certain things you need to take into consideration during these periods and the following lines will list all these things making it easier for you to deal with this, sometimes quite difficult, problem.
When to Start Over?
First of all, you may have broken up for many different reasons. Sometimes, these reasons are not strong enough to make the two people separated and these break ups often result in eventual reconciliation. Yet, in these situations, if you happen to find someone else to help you when you are lonely, you will only risk to hurt this person when you go back to your previous relationship. So, if there is a chance of you getting back to your previous partner, do not start over. Rather, wait for the situation to clear out a little bit and once both of you think things through, you will probably be back together. The same goes for divorce as well as long and short term relationships.
There are cases when people do not know whether to start a new relationship after their previous partner had died. Then, the best thing to do is to ask yourself whether you are ready for something as serious as a relationship. Since you have already had a good relationship, you will have no problems when you engage into a new one. Still, it has to be in the time you yourself perceive as right.
Analyze yourself and your behavior. Namely, there are people who repeat the same mistakes over and over again, from one relationship they get into another one. People can be intolerant and lack the necessary contribution to the relationship they have. On the other hand, they can be overprotective, jealous and have many other problems. Either way, try and change the things that stand in the way of your happiness. If this requires professional counseling, do it.
Finally, do not step into a new relationship if you have certain fears and uncertainties. Each new bond you make with people is a step into the unknown and you might fear that you could lose yourself or lose the person you start to love once again. While in such a doubtful process, wait before starting over. Eventually, things will get much clearer and you will have all the self-confidence you need in order to give whatever it takes while cherishing and nourishing your new relationship.