Rejection and Lack of Passion
Relationships are based on love, passion, understanding, common interests and desires and so on. Therefore, any lack of these qualities can make a person feel rejected, while still being in a relationship. Whether it is postponement of the intercourse or reluctance to spend time together, these actions can trigger loneliness and lack of understanding in a relationship possibly leading to the end of it.
Doctors, being faced with an ever-increasing number of couples in need of relationship advice and with the constant rise of dysfunctional relationships, always suggest that sex should not be glorified. Rather, the focus should be placed upon the very act of closeness between partners.
The Problem is Estrangement
Basically, nothing can last forever if you do not try and make it last. The same goes for relationships. They need constant maintenance. Ignoring your partner's desires will eventually lead to estrangement on both sides. Once this bond is lost, there can hardly be a way back. Many couples, over the course of years, have completely neglected romance in their relationships. Rather, they indulge into sex only for the purpose of pleasure, or even stress relief. This is a wrong approach since, this way, the only thing bonding two people is something physical, which can hardly be enough.
Interestingly, a person may think that he/she knows all about his/her partner, being bored because of this fact, feeling that they have reached the peak of their relationship, losing interest in their once beloved life companion. Moreover, often they meet someone else, feeling that they have more in common with these people than with their own partners such as having the same favorite movie or something else. However while they are amazed by the things they have in common with the people they have a crush on, they forget that they never managed to discover all they have in common with their partners and that they do not even know which the favorite movie of their partner is.
Surely, work takes life out of people and may force couples to meet only in bed, tired and self-centered. However, then, something needs to be done.
You need to remember that sex is not everything. If one of the partners is not in the mood for it, do something else. You may watch the TV together, play cards, go for a walk, go for a drink or lead good old conversations for a change. Remember the happy days, when the two of you first met, recalling all the emotions, the thrills, the shyness, remember the first time you kissed, the first time you went on vacation etc.
Also, introduce fresh surprises in your
relationship. Do not be swallowed by the routine. If sex is boring,
make it more interesting. Talk about it and improve it. Of course,
you need to have it in order to modify it and enhance the experience
you get from it. Thus, be creative and do not give up on your relationship.