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A healthy relationship is, naturally, backed up by a healthy sex life. But sometimes the sex isn't too good at all. And sometimes it's the gent's fault, and whatever the case may be a real gent is always to assume the blame.

However,this article deals with the situations when the fault is seen on the lady's part.

Namely, the mistakes (concerning sex) some ladies make are sometimes of such magnitude that they may shatter entire relationships.

The Looks?

This is a common mistake many ladies make, and atop of that it often tends to ruin the enjoyment for both parts. There is just not enough space for worrying about how the tummy fat looks or messing up the make-up and enjoying an orgasm.

This is why most therapists will advise the couple to focus on the act itself, and allow everything else to fade away to the background.

Besides, a gent is more likely to notice the playfulness, flexibility and enthusiasm during the course than he is to notice that tiny little wrinkle on her face – at least for the time being, and that's what matters.

The First Move?

Manyyears past the sexual revolution, and curiously enough, the ladies find it highly inappropriate for themselves to be the ones to make the first move in the sex game. This is mostly due to the repressive condition which hinders them from making the first move for fear of coming off as pushy or aggressive – so they wait.

This is just as often in stark contrast with the gent's expectations, as he doesn't want to be the initiator every time, and is furthermore even turned on by a lady who isn't afraid of coming off as direct.

The truth is, both women and men love being the object of desire, and thusly, giving each part what he/she wants only makes things more easy-flowing and fun.

A Casual Past-Time?

Theidea is so oudated that if presented with such a picture he may feel as if he is perceived as a sort of a medieval creature reduced to three functions: letting blood, downing grog and pounding lass.

Evidence of this is that the sex is always better (for both parts!), more fun and playful within a committed relationship than a one night stand is.

This is why it is important for the lady not to trivialize its meaning for the gent (by means of clinging to centuries ago outmoded concepts).

He's Always Ready?

This is not entirely not-true. It is true for young adults and teenagers. But when it comes to fully grown men, it simply doesn't hold water. This is because the modern everyday life takes its tolls and the gent's libido is not always able to deliver peak performance due to this simple fact.

This is, bluntly put, manifested as a lack of sexual desire during certain periods, and a lady is gravely mistaken if she (because of the minor glitch) suddenly begins to think that her gent no longer finds her attractive.

Not Trying AnythingNew?

Thisone is either a result of pure boredom or plain old laziness, and is surely to make her partner lose interest in sex. It is a fairly simple fact that trying out new things in the bedroom keeps the relationship alive, fresh and vibrant and prevents it from getting all trite, dull and boring – so what's the big deal?

Afterall, a partner who enjoys the routine with no spice allowed whatsoever, is a dull one.

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