A Word on Happiness and Means of Achieving it
Isn't it the most curious thing that when a person attempts to pursue happiness the "achievement" so often ends in tears and returns unhappiness instead?This is becaus the pursuit of happiness often also involves the pursuit of changing the way a person feels about those relevant to his or her life, as well as oneself. That is to say, it is also the pursuit of "the evolution of the soul", if you please.
So accordingly, this article discusses the different ways of pursuing happiness. Without further ado, ahead is a list of three different ways of doing so.
The first and simplest of ways is mentally equating happiness and pleasure. This means that the pursuit of happiness is just about the same thing as the pursuit of engaging in activities which involve drugs, alcohol, nicotine, food, sex, gambling or shopping.
The second method would involve enjoying work. This one is most likely to be chosen by people who are fairly career-oriented as well as those who place the importance of money pretty high up on their lists of priorities. Thus, the highlighted points of this method would be accumulating and managing money.
Lastly, but not least importantly, the last method is targeting people who find their social lives to be amongst their top priorities. These people will pursue getting control over achieving love, approval, attention, admiration or acknowledgment.
These are three different paths that are employed by different types of people, but they all share a thing in common. Namely, the pursuit of momentary happiness. This is to say that a person enjoys a pleasure, which feels good for a while, and then it is over. The person then feels urged to relive the sensation in order to feel happy again, and this is exactly the type of behavior which leads to "addictions" – since the effects of such rewards are always momentary.
This is to say that true happiness is not a result of doing something, but is rather a way of being. What this aims at is that achieving true happiness would involve a state of happiness which is a bit deeper than the result of the pursuit of the simplest of momentary pleasures (which are all fine in their own right, but incompetent to fill the big pictures).
So what does this mean?
Bluntly put, achieving a state of ongoing happiness would mean changing the lifestyle to one of kindness, compassion understanding and acceptance. But - as many have found - being nice to others isn't enough. That's why it would also involve studying oneself (per reflection) and understanding what are the most loving and compassionate gestures towards the particular self, then paying attention to satisfying the aspects.