Personal development - does it really work?

An introduction to the basics of personal development

One of the keys of personal development (and self-improvement) is the question of accountability. This means that each and every (adult and capable) person is to be held accountable as should be aware of the fact that nobody else is responsible for his or her own well-being.

Accepting this simple truth is the first necessary step towards personal development

From the day a person is born he/she's surrounded by negativity – or so it seems. The person is firstly raised by imperfect parents, then is put through an imperfect education as led by educators with plenty of personality flaws, only to be met with workplace peers who sometimes tend to cause more emotional damage than they actually help to get the job done.

As the scars of peer pressure seem to be the slowest to heal, the person realizes that there are reasons aplenty to blame others for slow or crippled success.

What needs to be done

This is the point at which the awareness of accountability ought to kick in. Namely, it is not something that should be expected in the mail, but is instead a conscious decision. This means that, in order to initiate the personal development process, is just about the right time to stop blaming other people for the decisions and actions that have led the person to a place he or she doesn't want to be.

Another important thing to accept is that time travel is a thing yet to be discovered (if at all). And what is meant by this is that no matter how much a person is regretting a number of decisions he or she has made, there is simply nothing left to be done about them. Accordingly, it also means that playing out “what if” alternative history scenarios is amongst the idlest of fancies.

Simply put, once a person has stopped blaming the circumstances or personnel of one's life for the mistakes made, he's/she's ready to focus all this tremendous until-that-point-dormant energy on the actual problem solving. And once this is done, the set of controls which may be applied to each and every life's scenario will expand drastically – provided the person has healthy, realistic and reasonable appetites according to his/her abilities.

To draw a blunt conclusion, this means a person oughtn't have megalomaniac tendencies similar to insane notions of controlling each and every aspect of the surrounding relevant world, but should instead not consciously afford the luxury of losing grasp on the situation and the relevant things that can be helped; and should further use it towards achieving the goals of the particularities.