What are the main characteristics of people who are passive aggressive? Suppressed anger and frustration lead to physical way of expressing displeasure. Distinguished characteristics that best describe passive aggressive people are in most cases negative attitudes towards everything that surrounds them. They are incapable of behaving in an expected manner in a professional and social environment.
Passive aggressive traits
One can’t notice these traits at first. They appear during the realization of some appointed task, and, for example, meeting the deadline is of no importance to them. They have their own agenda and they stick to it, regardless of other people who are in their team, or who depend upon the competition of task that is appointed to someone with passive aggressive traits. They are often seen as victims of someone else’s plot, but in fact they only pretend to be a victim. They want to be under the lights no matter what, so in order to achieve that, they are often late for parties, or some other important events.
In order to avoid intimacy, they have a tendency to start a fight with someone close to them, a friend or a member of family. They are afraid of taking over the responsibilities, leading a life under their own terms. They are constantly afraid that they will have to depend on someone, so, they try to control and give orders to others, whereas their behavior and the way they talk can be often difficult to understand as it can be interpreted in more ways. They are never responsible if something ends wrong, they always find someone else to blame it on, and regardless of everything, they demand the punishment for that person.
Causes for Passive Aggressive Traits
Passive aggressive traits are not considered to be mental disorder. Causes that can lead to the development of this kind of traits are endless, but one thing is for sure, influence of the family and the childhood during someone's growing up has a major role in the development of passive aggressive traits. People who have these kinds of traits need a helping hand, so don’t hesitate if you notice some signs of this type of traits or behaviour in someone that you love and care for, seek a help from people who are specialized in this area, psychologist or a therapist. Talk to a psychologist and he will tell you how you have to behave in interaction with people with passive aggressive traits. In that way, you can help your loved one to realize his state and move towards the changing of his attitudes and beliefs.