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Mad as hell? Personal perception changer

Anger is a Matter of Perspective

Many of us have problems managing anger. Namely, when exposed to it, provoked or treated wrongly, we tend to become ticking bombs, waiting to explode. The worst things about this explosion is its power to engulf innocent people and expose them to your anger, creating a chain of negativity which is always counter-productive. Thus, clearly and simply, anger is wrong and bad, both for you and for the others.

So, something needs to be done with all the anger you are feeling. Anger, per se, greatly depends on one's perception. Therefore, you get angry when you perceive people laughing at you or insulting you as something calling for arms, needing you to protect yourself by using hostility. However, if you think about the process a bit, and learn how to control the negative input you get from the outside, you are bound to be safe from anger. By following the steps below, you will channel you anger into something positive and will avoid bursting out, injuring, emotionally or physically, the people around you, both those you love and those you do not.

The Trick for Anger Management

The first thing towards treating your own anger problems is to go back to the very moment you had had your anger bout. Think about the things that caused these problems from a neutral perspective. Analyze both your behavior and the behavior of those who caused you feelings of anger.

Switching places with other people in order to get a greater insight into the psychology of a problem is a great technique. Therefore, imagine the stream of consciousness of the other person as well, observing you from a different perspective.

Next, switch the viewpoint to being a fly on the wall, observing the whole anger issue from a safe distance, through a 3rd person perspective.

Then, get out of the frame which is making this situation limited. Look at this problem on a more global level, taking other things into consideration, considering the entire system. Then move even further away, and take a universe standpoint, considering divinity and some kind of supreme, god-like, knowledge. Examine the problem from this omniscient perspective and see what the opinion about it is.

This technique can help you change viewpoints and start thinking about people other than yourself, when it comes to your own actions and the effect they have. Once you learn to understand others, you will understand yourself better, and anger will be a much less frequent issue. Finally, you might imagine your boss's head as a balloon. Whenever he/she is causing you trouble, take the balloon, inflate it until it bursts. This visualization can be highly therapeutic, having an instant positive effect.

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