Adding a baby to your family is a totally natural progression of a loving and stable relationship. It is all too easy to think that when you and your partner love each other, and are materially situated, there is not much to discuss when it comes to trying for a baby - except for your future kids' names, the color of your nursery, and when to come off the pill. But a baby changes your family dynamic completely, and discussing the logistics of pregnancy and parenthood in advance can only benefit your relationship! These are our tips on things we think every couple should talk about before trying to conceive. Are you committed to both having careers and working full-time? Then the kind of daycare facilities will you want for your child, and how much maternity leave will you take after birth, are important discussion points. If you feel strongly about one parent staying at home, who should do it? How will that affect your finances? What are your opinions about parenting in general? It is easy to assume you are on the same page with your partner, because your relationship functions great now, but this is an essential thing to talk about. Not having the same views about how to raise children can cause a lot of friction in a relationship. Do you feel you should help your children as much as you can financially, and want to set up a study fund? Or do you feel your children should be independent financially as soon as this becomes possible? Financially, do you have a good amount of reserves that will enable you to take time off work if your pregnancy takes an unexpected turn, and you require best rest, or something similar? These kinds of situations can always come up, and they are best discussed in advance.
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