We are still living in a patriarchal, gender-driven world where fathers are stereotypes for warriors and muscular heroes deprived of emotions and mothers are caring figures who stay at home and cook. Naturally, this is wrong and both father and mother figures have greater potentials than the heritage of previous, primitive societies.
The Ideal Father
Numerous changes need to affect fathers of tomorrow. Namely, they should not work so much, in order to spend more time with their children and create close bonds from early childhood. Education itself needs to be modified, teaching male children about the importance of fatherhood and care from this parent as well. Coordination and cooperation between a father and a mother are crucial and these roles need to be equally distributed and balanced.
Additionally, fathers of the future need to be more involved in lives of their children, being a part of their education, family, children services and support for both the mother and the child.
However, the road towards these changes is bumpy and full of obstacles. Nevertheless, numerous organizations do their best to allow the inner fathers to be awaken within all future male generations. Government policies, help for disadvantaged families, development of public services and many other factors are involved in this action.
We need to change the society from within, along with the employers, economy, social programs, education etc. People need to learn the principles of fatherhood and motherhood, as well as the cooperation between the two. Hopefully, we will all learn to listen to the inner “superdads” and “supermoms” inside ourselves and accept the positive changes, throwing away the dysfunctional teachings of the past.The Father Figure throughout History
Speaking of our fatherhood heritage, not all fathers were failures. Moreover, many males of today are more than skillful and talented in being excellent fathers for their lucky children.
We know that it is much easier to become a father than to be one. But we also know that even the poorest good fathers leave their children the richest inheritance. Wordsworth, for example, glorified the father figure saying that God himself could not have given it a holier name. Additionally, Clarence Budington Kelland said that fathers do not teach us how to live. Rather, they live, allowing us to watch and learn.
Freud, on the other hand, claimed that the need for father's protection during the childhood is one of the strongest needs a person ever feels.
Finally, we can end this article with the wise words of Reed Markham: “Being a great father is like shaving. No matter how good you shaved today, you have to do it again tomorrow.”