The Guilt which Eats Us Away
We, as human beings are prone tofeeling guilty. Namely, we live by a system, having something a fixedset of traits we consider our ideal us in our head at all times.Every time we do something that does not match this ideal us, we arebound to feel guilty. This is our way of controlling our behavior andmaking sure we are on the right track in life. However, this guiltcan be groundless quite often.
There are many people who are takingcare of someone else. This could be a sick family member, a husbandor a wife with serious health problems etc. Then, many of us areprone to feeling guilty because of the negative state of affairs. Wetend to be judgmental towards ourselves since we have not doneanything to prevent the current problems. Yet, we should not tortureourselves this way.
The same is with sick parents. Usually,people are meant to stay at home at all times and take care of theirsick parents, missing out on their own lives. For example, you maymiss your child's first school performance only because you stayed athome with your own sick mother, feeling guilt strong enough to keepyou locked to the house. At the same time, you feel the guilt whichmade you stay home and the guilt for missing out on your child'simportant, unique, moment in life.
This kind of guild is no way to liveand you need to surpass it in a constructive and creative way. Theinstructions below may be all you need for this to be possible.
How To Live Life Without Guilt?
First, you need to know the exactreason behind the guilt you are feeling. You will not be able ofreacting unless you know what is causing your need for reaction inthe first place. Put your feelings into words and learn how toexpress your emotions.
Next, find the mismatch between theideal you and the miserable you tortured by guilt. Then, establishyour needs. Obviously, the status quo is not what you need.Therefore, you need to do something different. Neutralize the guiltand think about your own happiness. Learn how to satisfy your guiltand make it disappear, while, at the same time living your life theway you want it.
Finally, always remain true to theideal you, regardless of the price. Be good towards you family andloved ones, both those you are taking care of and those you are not.Still, do not let guilt make you choose sides. Rather, turn it off bystaying true to the ideal you, caring for all the people you love,putting those in need first, but not neglecting those who deserveyour care nevertheless.