It's All Up To You
During the course of our lives, weoften stumble upon problems. Sometimes, these problems are easilysolved, while sometimes these give us quite a hard time. Also, thereare times when unsolvable problems and frustrations get to us andmake us lose our grip, along with our confidence and self-esteem.This makes us feel negative about ourselves and become incapable ofdealing with problems of the same or similar type afterwards.
However, we should never forget thatour success depends on ourselves and our willingness to succeed.Thus, confidence is something that should be reinforced rather thanbroken when facing issues in life. You have the complete control overyour emotions and can decide whether a certain situation will get toyou or not.
Fortunately, there are fiveneurolinguistic steps of reprogramming your subconscious self intobeing a more confident person and not letting your guard down whenlife starts delivering blows.
Failures are inevitable. Nevertheless,they do not mean the end of the world. Therefore, your first steptowards preserving your self-confidence is to realize this.Understand losing your job as an opportunity for finding a differentone. For all that matters, you might even like the next one better,finding yourself completely instead of grinding the days away withthe previous working position. The same is with divorces and otherterrible complications which may affect us. Consider every ending to be anew beginning for you to explore and live to the fullest.
Secondly, feeling sorry about yourselfor blaming your deity or any other supreme force for your misery isnot a constructive way of dealing with problems. Rather, you shouldnot play the blame game, but move on and evade this feeling ofmisery. For example, each time you wake up thinking “Oh, God, whyme?”, put your clothes on, get out of the flat and enjoy life abit. Thus, step three would be to take your life in your hands andstop complaining.
Fourthly, failure is an option. Beprepared for matters not to be as you expect them to be. So, if youface a failure in your life, move on, try again, or try somethingelse. Do not give up on yourself or spend time crying over spilledmilk.
Finally, you need to be flexible. Ifyou do not have a job, maybe it is because you have rejected manyothers so far. Thus, even if you are a teacher, do not be afraid towork in a copy shop for a while. For all you know, you might end upowning a whole chain of those one day, making quite some money.