What to do about it? If your husband is the type of man who doesn't like talking about his feelings, it can be hard to get to the bottom of the reason he doesn't want to try for a baby now. Very possibly, he has no idea himself. Many women report that they pushed their reluctant husband into trying to get pregnant and that said husbands are now the best fathers in the world. That works sometimes. If you want to place the ball in your partner's court, tell him you are coming off birth control and if he wants to avoid pregnancy, he'll have to use condoms to make sure. (There are, of course, many stories about women who try to get pregnant without their partner knowing. That's really unethical and if you feel the urge to engage in this kind of thing, do see a psychologist!) If your partner keeps insisting he's not ready for a baby but he can't tell you why, seeing a relationship counselor is definitely a great idea. It's time to ask some difficult questions, but these often get heated if you do it by yourself. Writing your feelings down is another way to get clarity from your partner. Some couples do break up because they don't feel the same about adding a child to the family. This is something you may have to consider, in the end.