The Rules of Attractiveness
It is clear that some individuals attract others and vice-versa. However, it is not easy to find your exact pair in this respect and many people spend their entire lives mismatching themselves with those who they perceive as perfect for them. Therefore, we are left wondering whether attractiveness goes only in one direction while the other person, the object of attraction succumbs to it, or it is mutual in some cases. There are many different theories for both of these approaches and some of these attitudes will be discussed through the lines below.
Stereotypes or Facts?
Quite a number of doctors and psychologists claim that attractiveness depends on the gender, or the sex in that respect. Basically, males desire younger females in order for them to spread out their seeds and multiply, prolonging the existence of humanity instinctively. Since younger women have greater chances of giving birth successfully, males are attracted to them and are prone to cheating on their wives for this reason.
On the other hand, another claim says that women mostly choose older, materially secured men for the sake of protection and security they themselves desire for their family. Thus, women are predominantly attracted to older, successful men, while the latter run around chasing younger women. The logic in this two statements, therefore, hardly holds water in 100% of the cases, even though, at certain points, it may be plausible.
Alternatively, it is said that we are attracted to people who resemble our parents from the very first days of our childhood, since all the positive feelings of these times are re-evoked on a subconscious level once we meet a person meeting these physical standards. So, we could also spend our lives searching for our mother/father in a younger form, without family bonds.
Hormones should not be left unmentioned. Since they control most of the things we feel and experience in a certain way, these chemicals, especially dopamine and testosterone, influence our attractiveness. Namely, our testosterone levels get increased when we are attracted to someone. The same way, our elevated hormone levels attract others. This all triggers the production of happy hormones in our brain. Unfortunately, one can only be happy and attractive for a certain amount of time since, as we grow older, our hormonal levels get imbalanced or decreased, ending our influence by them and all the sensations connected with the process.
Finally, cyber-dating, being one of the most common ways of meeting people nowadays, since all we do is stay at home in front of the computers, has its own level of attractiveness related to the process. We are attracted to the mysterious identity of the person we communicate with and are more open due to the lack of inhibitions. Still, we can end these “relationships” with the same ease as when we started them.