Whenever we lose someone we loved or we get abandoned by people we expect something else from, we are bound to be overwhelmed with a plethora of different emotions. All these emotions are known to be called abandonment issues. People do not like it when they are abandoned and only a few can cope with this phenomenon lightly. In fact, in some cases, abandonment issues can lead to diseases, disappointment and numerous psychological, emotional and physical complications.
What are Abandonment Issues?
Abandonment issues are an umbrella term for a psychological disorder affecting one during the earliest childhood. A person may lose a parent or both parents. On the other hand, the child may be living with the parents but feeling deprived of their attention and affection, lacking support, guidance, love and care. These children usually develop abandonment issues fearing that they will be left alone and unprotected again, later in life.
Also, teenagers being emotionally sensitive members of our society, tend to have abandonment issues stemming from a breakup, feeling rejected and cast away. These individuals tend to feel fear of abandonment in every relationship they encounter next.
Signs of Abandonment Issues
Clinging is one of the main signs of abandonment issues. This term stands for inability of the sufferer to leave the person he/she cares for alone. Namely, the sufferer fears that distance will set him/her and the other person apart. However, usually, it is the smothering that does the same. Paranoia and dreading accompany people with abandonment issues every time the person they are clinging to does not respond to a phone call or fails to meet them.
Additionally, sufferers of this type tend to defend their status by threatening self harm. Basically, they may threat that, if the other person leaves them, they will commit suicide or do something else of these proportions. People with abandonment issues may be extremely self-complacent as well.
Problems in Relationships
Logically, fear of abandonment can cause many problems in an otherwise well-functioning relationship. The constant reassurance of other person's love and proof of it can drive many people away from loving the person with abandonment issues. Subsequently, we can conclude that the sufferers have extremely low self-esteem too.
People with abandonment issues need all the help they can get in order to overcome this disorder. First of all, they need to accept the fact that they have a problem. Then, they need to want to change. Only after these two conditions have been met can a person truly make an effort and try to be different, overcoming his/her fear of abandonment.