A Brief Introduction
ADDin the family doesn't only affect the suffering child, it alsoaffects the entire family. Namely these effects may by as vast as toemotionally shatter the mother, father or any sibling. What's more,ignoring the problem works like ignoring any other problems: it onlygets worse (both emotional and physical-wise), and the situation,consequentially, harder to handle.
So how does ADD affectmoods and what on Earth could be done?
Quiteobviously, the first person to suffer from ADD is the one who'sactually got it. This is because the suffering child may feel trappedby something he or she has no power over. This is exactly why it isimportant to communicate to the child properly, and thus, quiteprecisely, pin down the triggers of various uncontrollable acts ofbehavior.
Changesthat need to be made may even include dietary changes (such as lesssugar!), which may, in turn, greatly sedate his or her ADD.
Communicationneeds to remain at a healthy level between the parents themselves,but also between the parents and the kids teachers. There should be athick stream of communication and collaboration between the parentsand the teachers, since the teachers may witness certain types ofbehaviors at school which parents may not.
How about familysystems and ADD?
Nextin line to be affected would be the kid's parents. Namely, when aparent sees his or her kid acting out, screaming, twisting andtossing about, he or she begins to – and increasingly – worrythat not enough education has been provided.
Theymay further be looked down upon by other family members or acquaintances for the very same reasons.
Andwhen ADD begins to affect the entire family, the parents slowly butsurely begin to convince themselves that it is somehow rally is theirown fault. This will, in turn, put additional strain on theirmarriage as well as on the relationship with their (supposedly sick)child.
Andit is in these situations that parenting skills suffer the moststress, as stress is increased between the parents themselves, aswell. And this is exactly why it is important for the parents to cometogether, and cold-headedly lay out the best possible discipline planfor their troubled child.
And parenting ADDChildren?
Duringparenting an ADD-ridden child, it is of utmost importance to use allthe available expertise of the people who have already worked withsuch cases. The changes which may result are improvements of therelationship between the parents and their kid.
Thiskind of advice teaches the parents how to handle difficult situationswhen the kid is acting out, as it helps them manage his or herattitude better. On the other hand, the kid will feel a strongersense of belonging as consequence, so everyone wins.
How about the siblings?
The siblings are the third to suffer, but nonetheless, they, too, do. Asa result of their ill sibling's ADD's, they are likely to developanxieties, and feel tension and frustration. Another drawback wouldbe the ADD-ridden child constantly demanding all of the attention,which in turn leaves the other sibling(s) getting the short end ofthe stick.
Allof this may cause "the healthy sibling" to develop resentful attitudes towards the other, which may in turn lead to agreat many impulsive reactions from both parts.
Andlastly, if the family has tighter relations when it comes tograndparents, aunts and so forth, they will be the last to suffer.