Causes of low self esteem

The Destructiveness of Low Self-Esteem

Since the day we are born, regardless of the fact that self-esteem is not our inborn characteristic, we tend to depend on the will of the majority. We get born into societies where we are shaped to fit, regardless of our own preferences. This can cause quite a negative effect for people who feel differently than their social surroundings. Namely, in societies where beauty and money are everything and everything else is not of great importance, people who do not fit due to aesthetics or monetary factors are bound to feel secluded, unattractive and disappointed by their own selves. This, of course, leads to a lack of self-esteem which, in the long run, can make one's life a misery. The causes may be many others and these will be mentioned later. Nevertheless, self-esteem is the crucial part of one's personality, necessary in order for an individual to be happy and capable of expressing him/herself to a full extent. Otherwise, if a person is not satisfied with him/herself, reflected in the eyes of society, he/she is bound to be unhappy and suffer from great personality issues as the life of this individual moves on. Therefore, nourishing one's self-esteem is a must, since it can help him/her live with ease instead of falling into the depths of despair, complexes and other behavioral problems.

Reasons of Low Self-Esteem

One of the most common causes of low self-esteem is a negligent upbringing a person has endured. Lack of love, understanding and support some children experience from their parents often leads to a lack of self-esteem throughout their lives and leaves permanent marks on the personalities of these children, even when they, themselves become adults.

On the other hand, some parents tend to scorn their children regardless of their success, potential or any positive features. This too can easily lead to self-esteem issues. Another parental mistake commonly made is forcing the child to fulfill the dreams they themselves have failed in the past. This poses a tremendous pressure on the young one's making them feel unworthy of living due to the fact that they have disappointed their parents.

Some children and people start suffering from low self-esteem due to numerous defeats and failures they encountered in their lives. Others feel inferior to the rest of the world because they are not satisfied with their looks and overall appearance. Physical, mental and sexual abuse during childhood can trigger this condition in a person too. Finally, unemployed people usually consider themselves unwanted and rejected, having these issues as well.

All these people tend to be depressed, pessimistic and passive, prone to anorexia, obesity and similar conditions, fearing criticism and being afraid to make any positive changes. In order to get better, they need to avoid negative people, start thinking positively about themselves and seek professional assistance during their battle against their low self-esteem.