Worrying can be good in certain situations. Namely, this type of anxiety can serve as an excellent motivator for progress in times when we need such encouragement and driving force. Yet, if anxiety follows our every step and we constantly think about the worst case scenarios and possible negative outcomes of our every move, this state of mind can be very counter-productive, even self-destructive. Thus, we need to teach our brain to use anxiety in a creative way, staying calm and relaxed most of the time.
What Keeps us Tense?
Our worries pester us, staying constantly on our mind, interfering with our normal life. Pessimism drives us into thinking that everything will not be all right and that something bad is bound to happen. Anxious people always contemplate their future actions, hoping that they will find a solution, not wanting to overlook something, exposing them to excessive speculating due to these factors. Basically, anxious, worried people do not want to get surprised by negative aspects of life and desire to deal with all the problems responsively, living under incredible pressure daily.
People have different attitudes towards worrying. Namely, some believe that it is necessary for being organized and responsible, while others think that it is bothersome and might make them lose their mind eventually. However, without some worries, we would lose control over our lives. Nevertheless, excessive worrying is something bad and should be interpreted as such. Thus, people need to work on themselves in order to stop worrying too much.
Keep Anxiety at Bay
First and foremost, in order to deal with anxiety best, you need to except life as a series of inevitable events of which some are bound to be bad. Thus, regardless of how much time you spend ruling out the worst case scenarios, there will be times when these will come out to the surface. Thus, embrace life as it comes and do not spend excessive time worrying about what is coming next. Enjoy the good things and deal with the bad ones as they come.
Secondly, you can benefit greatly from learning how to postpone your worrying. Create a special, daily time for worrying, dedicating about 30 minutes of your time to anxiety and worrying, letting it all out. Make a worry list during this time and ponder upon it, finding solutions. Once your worrying time is over, return to enjoying life until the next day when your anxiety time takes place.
Finally, analyze the negative thoughts which rush through your head. Usually, anxious people exaggerate matters and make them worse than these actually are. Thus, learn how to look at problems from a different perspective, scanning them objectively. Most probably, you will realize that none of your troubles are as bad as you initially thought they will be.